By Jacqueline Selim
in this 21st century, everything is changing but many things have taken a toll over family because we have let things damage our families. Each day, I hear sad stories of breaking families with little or no effort by the concerned parties to restore them. People rather just move on and live alone. Wherever you are, I am certain you have heard or know someone who has a ‘family ache’. So sad right? Do you have a family ache or are you at the verge of it?
What do you think really causes these aches? Here are some possible factors;
- Poor family foundations;
In the olden days, parents carefully brought up their children with strict family values. This is not to say there weren’t any negligent parents but children were taught to value and respect their families. They were grew up working hard enough to cater for their aging parents and grandparents. These days kids grow up with an ‘everyone for themselves and God for us all’ mentality!
- Wrong priorities
Our generation would rather do everything else than be with their families. If you doubt it, ask people around you when they last spend time with their families. We all have bills to pay, movies/TV series to catch, a book to read and what have you but is spending time with our families ever as urgent?
- Poor communication
Communication is crucial for any relationship to flourish. For example; decisions affecting the family ought to be communicated properly and within the right time frame and to the right people who are directly affected by these decisions. Often, we hear cases of a family member secretly selling land only for auctioneers to show up at homes to surprise their spouses and children.
Lack of trust in a family or any relationship brings about suspicion, uncertainty and tension that could cause parties to overreact at the slightest disagreement.
Have you ever been betrayed by a close friend and felt like cutting them off your circle? Now imagine one of your immediate family members betrayed you! This could have severe consequences on family if not well handled.
There are innumerable things that could tear your family apart if not carefully handled. Fortunately, these issues can be resolved if only we esteem family just like we esteem everything else. The greatest regret would be to forego our God-given families to pursue things that are not long-lasting.
The greatest asset in life is your family. These are people who should have your back all the time or rather you should have their back all the time. Your family members aren’t ashamed of you and would defend you in the most sacrificial ways. You therefore ought to invest much more and enjoy this blessed gift from God.
The writer, Jacqueline Selim, is an avid family blogger pushing for the family agenda.
Her email is firstname.lastname@example.org